My domestic worker has decided to raise her son here in Hong Kong with us, what challenges should I be prepared for? Will he be able to go to school here? - Ms. Davis, Employer, Hong Kong

It is not easy for foreign domestic workers (FDWs) to raise their children in Hong Kong, as successful integration of their work and family life can be very challenging. FDWs would need to be prepared for the many adjustments to their work routine whilst attending to the needs of their babies. If the FDWs are new mothers, the adjustment period could be even tougher.

Babies require a lot of care round the clock – and this can be very exhausting for their caregivers. Coupled that with the need to fulfil their job responsibilities, many FDWs will find this situation extremely stressful and overwhelming. This is especially so when FDWs receive little or no support from their partners or family members. The support of employers, such as yourself, can certainly help in this journey.

Just as your FDW will face a challenging period of adjustment, you and your family would have your own set of challenges too. For a start, your household would need to adapt to a young child sharing your home. This may not be easy, especially in the first few months, as new-born babies tend to cry frequently. You might also need to moderate your expectations of your FDW’s work performance and allow some flexibility so she can tweak her daily work routine to realistically meet the needs of her baby.

In essence, both parties should be well-prepared for the transition. This period of adjustment, if poorly managed, could cause tension and disagreements; not to mention disruption to both families. It would be ideal for employers and FDWs to communicate and openly discuss these issues ahead of time and agree on a plan that works for both. Bear in mind too that children’s needs evolve as they grow, so it’s also important for both parties to have an open mind and have frequent honest conversations to make this situation work.

A simple tip that could help both parties manage better is switching to online grocery shopping and have the items delivered to your doorstep. Another tip is letting your FDW have frequent short breaks during the day (say during feeding times) to better manage her energy levels, which in turn will help her manage her job duties better.

Once your FDW’s son is born, she should promptly apply for his birth certificate, passport and dependent visa. The baby’s dependent visa will be attached to his passport. With the dependent visa, your FDW’s son will be able to live, study and access public health care in Hong Kong. She is welcome to contact one of our experienced case managers for more information and support.

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